Relationships During The Holidays

Whether you are just starting on a relationship or you’ve had your fair share of monthly celebrations and anniversaries, it is important you know or remember the stress the holidays can put on a couple. But worry not; our experts have gathered some pieces of advice to help you cope with the demands of this holiday season and come out triumphant out this whole red, white and green madness.

If you’ve already been through a holiday season with your girlfriend, you know what makes her twitch and your cue to either stay put or leave the room, running for your life. And I say running for your life because for some reason, girls seem to loose it a little bit during this time of year. Shop-o-holics are in heaven; Martha Stewardy types invade their kitchens with tons of bread molds, cookie cutters and what not. Those that hate the holidays are dieing to get out of town and those living away from home are either trying to get out of visiting relatives or finding a way to make it to all the ridiculously schedule-breaking dinners, meetings, drinks and so on.

If you are not yet sure about what kind of Christmas psycho your girlfriend is, this is as good a time to test her and assess her level of craziness. After all, Christmas is known to be one of the busiest times of the year. Be a good sport and cope with her a little bit without letting her snowflake on you, if you get my drift. Being her own Santa’s little helper in whatever she needs might seem a little too male-submission to you, but you are sure to get compensation in return. A little help now will translate into amazing and very thankful sex later on. Those of you taking medication: it’s time to break open that pack of generic Viagra. It’s Christmas celebration time!

Now, you too are probably rushing and running around too. Make sure to keep communication open and flowing. The idea around the holidays is to be able to share with each other, with your family and friends – whatever your idea of Holiday Season is. The better the communication between the two of you is, the more easily things will flow. You can discuss what events to attend and reduce this season’s stress load; sometimes we attempt making it to each and every single celebration party or get-together we are invited to and end up fighting about this or that. Plan your holidays. Choose to attend only a given number of events; by doing so, you will be able to plan out your schedule and leave time to simply chill together and have a glass of wine by your Christmas tree.

Some people are just not much into the whole Christmas craze. Be respectful of your couple’s traditions too. Perhaps it is you who is not so into Christmas. Learn to compromise and come to terms about decorating, doing certain traditional stuff like getting a Christmas tree, exchanging gifts or having a whole turkey dinner on Christmas Eve. These celebrations can also make religious conflict to surface. Whether you two have children or not, or you just started dating, make up your mind about trying new traditions and share the way each other is used to celebrate. After all, the holidays are supposed to be a time to share and enjoy.

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