Anal Sex For Couples
Anal sex has come a long way, and as with fetishes, anal is no longer relinquished to gay men sexual experiences or women with strap-ons on S&M porn flicks. As much as you would love your girlfriend letting you explore her back entrance, society has always made us believe anything ass-related in terms of sex is off boundaries. We are taught to view the ass as negative. But it’s not. Packed with a tremendous amount of nerve endings perfect for pleasurable experiences, there are plenty more practices you can go about and enjoy whether alone or in company of a partner.
If concerned with cleanliness of the area, possible pain episodes and true enjoyment from both parts, there are a few things to take into consideration before you start. First there is mutual consent. You can’t expect a girl to be okay about you mounting her from behind if you are not ready to let her in that way too. Stop being homophobic about anal play. Enjoying a little butt teasing does not make you less of a man or whatever threatens your sexuality.Try first, say no (or yes) later.
Cleansing is important. Since you will be entering a highly contaminated area (after all we do go #2), cleaning the area is extremely important. You’ve got several options: you can start in the shower where you will have easy access to soap and water in case you get grossed out, you can wear a glove (with plenty of lube on), or start first things first by clearing out your bowel before indulging in the practices of anal.
As with prostate exercises, with which you strengthen and relax muscles, anal exercises allow you to understand how the different entrance levels of your anus work. By doing so, you can distinguish the different times to either insert or remove plugs, toys or dildos from there. Lubricant is key though. To make any insertion or retrieval from this location, lubricant is what will make your day. Contrary to the vagina that self-lubricates, the anus does not. So lube comes in to help in this matter. Keep it close and keep it coming.
Know what you are getting into. As with vagina, you should also get to know your butt (both hers and yours). Feel around, inside and out. The two sphincters in the anus are what control exits from this area, and therefore will come into play when trying to get things in. Go step by step; start with the tip of your finger while relaxing the outer sphincter. If you feel comfortable with this, find that lube we talked about and try going in deeper.
Experimenting is really the only way to go about anal play. Clenching and releasing will help you understand the changes that your butt does. Circling around the rim will tickle the nerves there and help you and your partner get started. As with traditional sexual play, you may require a male enhancer like generic Viagra. However, consult with your physician before taking any prescription medication and inform yourself about the basics for anal sex play. Explore and have fun. Perhaps that whole “finger in your butt” while your girlfriends gives you a BJ isn’t that bad after all.
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