Insecurities Men Have

Even when men try to hide it by being all cool and stuff, most have to admit that there are certain things that simply get inside their skin. Fears men secretly hide are mostly about his manhood and his performance when the time comes to have sex with you (some get anxious about first times; some are munching on their nails thinking about performance, size, and other issues).

The male ego is a big and fragile balloon. Resistant because it can get blown up to quite a size, but the mere sight of a pointy needle and boom, it’s gone. Manhood at its very core is what defines the gender: all of our lives we are led to believe in the strength and power of men; men are leaders, men are sexual beasts, men are all-knowing in the bedroom. And so we perpetuate that same line of thought into our own lives, and even end up fearing the very thing we were taught to believe. What if I am not so good in bed? What if I can’t satisfy a woman fully? What if she thinks I’m too small? What if I go soft on her or even worse, ejaculate too soon? What if the experience ends up being completely disappointing.

Develop unrealistic ideas of what sex and the person you are having sex with should be can be a problem (sometimes with the little help of a tad too much porn things can get a little out of touch with reality.) Keeping things real can many times be the best approach you can have on what sex could be and how your partner will perform. After all, you wouldn’t want that same kind of pressure put upon you, right? Talk about stage fright!

Another fear men have is about their performance. The man is supposed to be all-knowing and wildly savvy in the sexual arts. However, many men fear not being able to make their partner enjoy the sexual encounter, that they will lose their erection or even come too soon. This trio is the sum of all things manhood. A man is nothing if he can’t please his partner; a man with no erection isn’t a man; and a man who can’t hold his man juice long enough is automatically considered unexperienced and considered a bad lover. So men do carry a lot of anxiety issues about their performance and how that affects their male image.

There has been a constant discussion about the use of treatment for erection problems that are not necessarily linked to a physiological fail. However, pill treatments like generic Viagra may also have a placebo effect on men. Having taken an ED treatment pill works as a safety net in the man’s head; the stress of not being able to get it up is magically gone, for the most part.

Of course, there are other fears that are commonly shared with their female counterparts. STDs and unwanted pregnancies are something neither part really wants and certainly fears, no doubt about that. Sometimes the fear of getting a girl pregnant or catching an STD can be enough to get a man’s mind off of his business and fail to perform. Instead of worrying about getting these, a man should worry about preventing them. This way sex will actually be enjoyable.

Stress, as we all know, is the cause for many unfortunate situations and medical conditions. Among these, there is erectile dysfunction. Performance anxiety can cause the body to shut down and impede you from performing sexually. Your erection can be back in business after the stressful situation is over, but what do you want it for then? Learn how to control your anxiety in stressful situations.

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