Money In Sex

For some men there is no such thing as finding a G spot, nor as they motivated by the “5 hottest ways to make a woman climax.” Heck, top 3 sex tips for better oral sex are not even part of their agenda. And there is only one reason for that: their wives make more money than they do. Society has long established the roles of men and women both in the bedroom and out. Though many things have changed, there seems to be something about role transformation within relationships that haunts men (and women); something that allegedly never happened before.

In a day and age in which gender equality and equal opportunity are a big issue (so big there are entities solely dedicated to pursue and guard this issues), the patriarchate of yesteryear still leaks in from time to time, letting old male and female role perceptions take over men and women. The discussion of whether money making affects a relationship varies according to who you ask; however, men still seems to be the affected by the inevitable emasculation money creates upon themselves. And this affects sex.

Long searching for ways to preserve their masculinity, men are constantly fighting being “less of a man.” Hence the purchase of over-priced material possessions (think watches, cars, gear, clothing, etc.), all governed and possible thanks to good old money. This money-produced power reflects as confidence and confidence translates into appeal. So men with money feel safe. But what happens when money is coming from the other end? How do men feel about their ladies making the bigger buck?

For some might not be a big deal. But for others, it might feel like they just lost their penises in a sword match. While my friend Mike took no shame on being a stay-at-home dad – he actually spends more time with his two-year-old than the rest of us did when our children were that age – other folks like Adam couldn’t handle the pressure. His marriage ended after months of frustration and resentment against his wife.

While the whole family took the blow, the first signs of this whole mess were evident in Cindy and Adam’s relationship. As Adam became more and more frustrated with Cindy making more money than him, his thought revolved only around ways to overpower her; dumb things like taking the nicer car or paying for expensive things. Eventually, the issue was so big that their personal relationship crumbled: Cindy, in an attempt to make her husband want her and take an interest in her, spontaneously boarded him for sex play. Sometimes Adam would succumb, but found himself unable to perform.

One more emasculation for him, because he had to start taking generic Viagra – which he found was the ultimate sign of owning now a mangina. If he couldn’t get it up, what could he do! Yet the medication wasn’t what he needed. The issue underlying was more powerful and harmful than erectile dysfunction. His frustrations and complexes had driven him to the point of no return. From his point of view, money in sex made everything worse. Are you going to let something like green paper get in the way of a happy sex life?

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