Approaching Women

In an age of über successful women like Oprah, Madonna and television’s favorite ex-convict Martha Stewart, it is very difficult to picture females looking to be saved by prince Charming from the infamous ivory tower. Today, women build the tower, decorate it, and sell it for twice as double in a Real Estate market clever play. Prince Charming is far, far away from this story. As a matter of fact, being a man looking to board one of this self-sufficient, all-mighty women is practically emasculating in itself to say the least. After years and years of being providers and protectors, are we still brave enough as to confront the ultimate of obstacles? Can we still sweep women off their feet?

There was a time when no generic Viagra had hit the market and women were still looking for that one shiny armored man who would make life worth living. Back then, a successful career and a tad of confidence were pretty much all you needed to get some hot stuff at happy hour. I’m not saying women used to be easier, but their standards and priorities were certainly different. Now, we live in Cougar town. Our reality as men today is full of over self-sufficient and super successful women with perfect bodies, eating men up and throwing their bones like there is no tomorrow. And with their feasting, they are annihilating men’s pride and manhood.

For ages, women at least pretended to hear us and take our advice as some divinely ordained word. Nowadays, we have no control or say over the things we once thought were pertinent to men. You think any man dating one of these over-achievers can feel powerful and manly next to the ever blinging shadow of success? There is nothing he can give her that she can’t get; not being able to be a getter or a giver makes most men’s manhood drop like a cordless elevator down the shaft. We are still embedded with this whole “bring home the bacon” thing.

But not all is lost just yet. No matter how gorgeous, how successful or how independent a woman is, she still wants chivalry. And chivalry, my men, is something only we can provide for them. I’m not talking about rose petal showers and corny teen movie scenes with veils and such. But romance at its best. While money can get tons of stuff women like, only a true gentleman can master the art of chivalry. Women want to be pursued and admired; women want to feel like you have eyes for no one else but them.

Easy, huh? Actually, yes. Providing women with unconditional seconds of appreciation and admiration cost close to nothing, and require little from your wallet or strips of bacon. Approaching women is, if anything, a test women use to measure you up. And this need not be a bad thing. With different types of women, come different triggers; some women might like the “shy approach” guys better than the “blunt and in your face” suitors. Yes, too much cockiness might not be the best strategy, but confidence and a nice personality go a long way in winning a lady’s heart over. Care to try?

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