Men And Babies
More often than not, the whole “having a baby” idea seems a further from reality as we grow older. While getting married stays out of our systems for a longer period, there is something primal about spawning our very own resemblance. Specially having a boy seems a thought greatly present in lots of men – even the younger generations. However, there is a long stretch between thought and action, most would agree. As life gets complicated and full of responsibilities, the baby fantasy becomes more and more distant. Sleepless nights and expensive educations, heightened consumerism and social stress are all up-front determiners that take men away from fatherhood – not to mention keeping a stable enough relationship with a “good woman” is a challenge too.
If being prepared where a requirement to form a family and have kids, the human race would have been extinct long time ago. Since preparing for the unknown is practically impossible, there is never a truly “good” time to have children. Of course, you are hoping that when such a time comes, you are financially stable and happily married. Ideally, you would own a nice house, have the means to feed, cloth and educate your child. Hey, you even want to spoil the little crawler with the best things in life. You want that baby of yours to have the best life possible. But is it?
Unplanned pregnancies more often than not find room in all sorts of relationships. Be it a good and strong relationship or one on the verge of break-up, men all over the world are being told they are going to be parents as you read this article. Can you hear the air gasp and cemetery silence? Becoming a father is something to be scared about…for a second. Wanted and planned pregnancies are a joyous occasion that is often celebrated not only by the couple but by their families as well. Yet, the ever resounding question stays: am I ready to be a father?
Men fall into this predicament because there is the inevitable need to choose between a life of frivolous spending and partying, crazy sex nights and late sleeping weekends and having a baby. While marriage or fatherhood do not necessarily imply a termination of all things fun, it does require a bit of responsibility and measure on your side. And some simply don’t want to give their Hot Wing and Beer night up.
Besides the conflicting feelings of becoming responsible for a new human being, there is the issue of the significant other. If raising a child within a happy marriage or relationship scares the bejesus out tons of men, becoming a single parent presents a whole new set of obstacles and concerns. Though men who have already fathered children praise the rewards a child brings, it really is something to sit on and truly think about. Are you willing to give up your stash of generic Viagra for a pacifier?
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