Big Turnoffs For Her (II)
Women are turned off by other stuff too. Smelling bad, I think, is one retched tip of the iceberg I like to call men. While not all of us are constant balls of stench, we do sport a fare share of smelly nooks and crannies that require maintenance. But some of us gain negative points in other areas. I mean, we can’ t be that bad, but to these I had to nod in shameful agreement.
The whole soft as a rose cliché is perhaps one of the truest urban myths in Sex Town. No matter how rough or tender she likes it, being excessively aggressive is something that will sure turn her off while in bed. Though a little play pretend might turn her S&M kink, real aggressiveness is not a plus in the bedroom. Sex is supposed to be consensual, enjoyable and fun. If anything, it can scale to be romantic or passionate, but never aggressive in the physical sense of the word. Forcing a woman to make stuff she isn’t really into is an instant and long-lasting turnoff, if not final. She might even tell her friends and spread the word around about you, and not in a good way.
Seriously though, forcing yourself onto her is not the right way to get what you want from your bedroom experience. Most women are very much willing to experiment and try new stuff in bed, as long as they are properly introduced to the subject and are allowed to choose whether to participate or not. Most men would be surprised to find out women are perhaps the greater sex freaks. Naturally born shoppers and junkies of accessories, the sex toy industry is packing the big guns in terms of glitzy gadgetry. If only men could see a group of giggly girls running wild inside a sex shop.
Of course, forcing yourself onto her includes the more public grabbing. While it is always nice to be touched and rubbed in the right places, at the right time, being too grabby is something women don’t necessarily like. When first starting to date, choose gentleman over Dr. Octopus. There is always a right time and a right place to slip your hand up her blouse or clench your hand to her back. It is all about respecting the other, when it comes to turn ons and turn offs. Though exceptions are obviously an option, general code of conduct says not to slap your date’s ass as you walk into a bar. But, hey, that’s just me!
Taking your girl’s feelings into consideration is obviously a must. One of the turnoffs most women mention is having their man’s past brought into the present one too many times. Yes, there was someone else before them, but they don’t need to be reminded of them every single time you tell your cowboy-boots-at-the-beach story. Women don’ t like to hear your ex’s name because they feel it takes from their role in your life. All a woman wants is for you to consider her the most beautiful, smartest, coolest, and most desirable woman in the face of the Earth, no matter who was rolling around in your sheets 6 months ago. After all, she even let’s you buy Viagra with her creditcard, man. Buckle up. Treat her right.
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