Life Improvement By Porn
July 14, 2010 by ellejones
Filed under Sex Issues
Many women do not like the fact that men use pornography. Unfortunately for these women, this is just a fact of life that they will have to accept. Approximately 80 percent of men, including those that are in relationships, use pornographic stimulation to ejaculate or to reach arousal. Not all is generic Viagra and lotion though. Women simply cannot understand that for men this is only an outlet. Women often take porn use personally, feeling that their men are using pornography instead of them to become and stay aroused or to reach orgasm. Women often feel jealous that the male is using outside stimulation and will often blame themselves or their own bodies for not providing the proper stimulation. However, women should not feel this way at all. Most men use pornography not because they are unsatisfied with the women in their lives but because they need a sexual outlet or stimulation other than the one their relationships usually or consistently provide.
If men react appropriately, however, they can succesfully integrate pornography into a healthy sex life. They should explain to their women that pornography is a fantasy and has no effect on how they feel about their sexual partner. Furthermore, they should try to introduce the women in their lives to pornography. While not all women will immediately or ever take to porn, many women will be surprised at how sexually stimulating it is. Watching different types or pornography together can actually be a learning and growing experince. Women and men alike can watch different types of sexual acts and decide whether or not they would like to try them for themselves. Furthermore, this is a great exploration exercise that helps couples to discover their mutual sexual likes, dislikes, and interests.
Women should not take pornography as being degrading to women. They must understand that the women involved in pornography are doing so by choice. No one has forced them in any way to be a part of the video or DVD. They have done so for their own sexual pleasure and gratification. For many women, realizing this all important fact can be very appealing and can lead to developing their own unique form of sexual satisfaction and liberation.
For those couples who are interested in voyeurism, pornography takes on a different form altogether. Experiencing voyeurism in the actual world can be very difficult. With pornography, however, it becomes extremely possible. Many couples enjoy pretending they are secretly watching the people on the pornography DVDs or videotapes. Additionally, pornography has proven to make couples more adventurous and more likely to try public voyeurism. Whatever the reason for watching pornography, couples must realize that if they approach it in the correct way, it can actually improve their sex lives and their relationships.
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