Silent Sex

You’ve seen one, you’ve seen them all. Porn film after porn film, more and more female porn stars moan and groan to the pleasuring acts of raw and primal sexual penetration. For those of you worried about your honey not screaming her lungs out when messing up the sheets, worry not. Silent sex is something a lot of couples deal with and is many times misunderstood.

T.V. commercials, porn flicks and the movies have made society believe a low decibel pleasure puddle means lack of skill and a dissatisfied sexual partner. When we free ourselves from our clothes and dress up in silicone and lubricant, we expect an immediate and increasing play back of heavy breathing, pleasure moans and dirty word scream-outs. We equate our capacity to pleasure our partners to the amount of sound that comes out of their mouths. And more often than not, we are disappointed and left worried or defeated.

Big mistake making these two an action and a consequence. While several men constantly stress out because their partners don’t make as much noise in bed as they expected, little do they do to corroborate this is true. Frustrated by the lack of dirty talk and sexually charged sounds, we fail to communicate our concern with the silent partners. Turns out not all women turn into yodeling beasts while engaging in a little sex poking.

Silent bed partners may stand behind a number of issues. The first and most common is shyness. In an attempt to control what is supposed to be an uninhibited act of selflessness, shy people refrain from making pleasure sounds. Unable to express their pleasure through moaning or fast breathing, they end up sending the wrong message to their partners. Communication is what usually solves this best. Talk to your partner about your concern and ask whether she is enjoying herself or not. After all, you know she is wet, but you want a little sing-along for this shower.

If cracking the shell of a shy girl is what you need, then encourage sound and talk during sex. I don’t mean “when is the phone bill due?” kind of talk while thrusting your life away; I mean dirty talk. More often than not, shy people feel too self-conscious to indulge in out-loud play. So be the initiator. Turn her on with some sultry wording of your own and path her way into loud and out-spoken sex.

If not shy but plain quiet, your partner is entitled to her silence. That’s the way she rolls. Perhaps there is a way you two can understand the level of pleasure the other is feeling at a given point. You are already blowing steam out of your nose like a mad bull; encourage her to at least become conscious of her breathing. The harder she breathes, the hotter you get. And she wants you hotter!

Worry not my generic Viagra-using friend, for your effort will not be in vain. Worst case scenario, you guys play great music and forget about grunting. She might even relax due to the fact she is not the only thing you are listening to and start howling like a monkey. Find pleasure in each person’s level of sex noise or lack there of.

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