Times A' Wastin
More often than not, men find themselves in pointless relationships. During earlier stages in life, pointless is perhaps what we want. Some company, tons of sex and something to show off for a couple of weeks is more than enough. And on comes the next victim. However, as men grow older and reach their third decade, life has taken enough spinning and turning as to continue all that clubbing charade. Besides, even when we have a tendency to date younger women, they too reach a point in which their priorities change; and that, includes relationships.
Men change their priorities too, and while not all men want to have children and form a family, there comes a time in life in which at the very least you want a life companion with whom to enjoy the fruit of your hard earned money. There is definitely nothing wrong with wanting someone to share your life with. But what about those whose times a’ wastin? Relationships can easily turn pointless at a time in our lives we want a relationship to have a point.
But why do we get stuck in pointless relationships? The answers can be many. However, many a time, people remain in a dead-end relationship simply out of fear of being alone or out of comfort. The first group may realize their relationship is pointless, but rather suck it up than being alone. If you are such a person, trying to be on your own for a while might prove more enlightening than you’d thought. Sometimes we use relationships to hide from bigger issues. Even when it might be a scary situation, being alone after years of being in a relationship can even make you reconnect to some of the stuff you gradually left behind in order to be with this or that person.
Those who are in a comfort relationship often act on a different impulse, but the effect is the same. Out of comfort, we sometimes delay a breakup that in the end brings more hurt and sorrow than a timely cut. This group is made of individuals who have fallen into a relationship “comfort zone”. The zone, though it provides stability, requires little to no effort from either part. As the relationship grows older, there is not longer a drive to make things work, to surprise each other or to improve things. Simply said, the couple falls into a mediocre state of mind.
Not falling in a relationship that is going to waste requires for you to pay attention to the signs. Lack of interest or effort on either part is an immediate red alert of something going down the drain. Follow your gut in terms of something not being quite alright. When in doubt, promote conversation and civilized arguments. Though men are not necessarily known for talking their hearts out, respectful and to-the-point conversation has proven to go a long way in terms of saving or getting out of a relationship.
And sex is not the answer to all things. Several men blame bedroom action or lack there of for their relationship or marital problems. Some even end up purchasing enhancers or generic Viagra as an attempt to make things work physically and connect mentally. However, chances are no physical connection can work to save a relationship if things at a mental and spiritual level are messed up. Go over your flaws and take a stand. No bad relationship is worth keeping for the sake of being in one.
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