Letting Her In On Your ED

Men are unlikely to go to the doctor’s office on their own and willingly. Men don’t particularly like doctors; men think they can rub, walk or sleep things off. I have four brothers, a dad, a grandpa and a father-in-law. Non of them have ever gone to the doctor because they thought it was necessary. Either my mom or I dragged them to the ER (in the case of my brothers, mostly) and to see different specialists (in the case of my dad). My parent’s marriage had a little bumpy ride for some time, and as I found out years later, after my mom passed away, she thought Dad was cheating on her or no longer in love with her. Turns out he had erectile dysfunction and was reluctant to tell my mother and go to the doctor.

My parents’ marriage is chick-flick worthy. With ups and downs, I still grew up a blind believer of love and “happily ever after”. Courtney, I know. But so did my brothers. When my parents celebrated their 35th anniversary things got a little weird. Of course, we were all grown up and Mom and Dad were living their lives as a couple. I recall Mom telling me she felt weird about how Dad was acting around her. He was cranky and seemed stressed out for no reason. Cranky? He’s old. He is aloud to be cranky, I thought. Stressed was weird, though. So I asked. There was no answer. He started changing subjects, as he cleverly does up to this day when he is uncomfortable about a particular issue.

Turns out my mom found out Dad had been suffering from erectile dysfunction for some time now. His reluctance to tell Mom about it had turned him a bit sour and got into fights with her for no reason. She was clueless as to what was going on. But she knew there was something. Their relationship continued, but the bond between them had definitely weakened. Mom was immensely sad, but determined to find out what was that my dad wouldn’t discuss. Some way or another, Mom found out what was going on and everything fell into place. She and Dad where no longer intimate because my dad, being the old fashioned man he is, couldn’t bare the idea of telling my mother he had erectile dysfunction.

Turns out solutions available were plenty, but male ego was bigger than perspective and openness. After finally finding out the wide range of opportunities he’d been avoiding, he realized the years he’d lost being too worried about what Mom and his family would think of him. Fortunately for the both of them generic Viagra helped Dad feel comfortable around my mom in their intimacy; the medication also had a surprising side effect, it gave him back his confidence and male ego. Never would I have thought that being unable to have an erection could prove so damaging to a person’s life. After that, Dad promised he would go to all doctor’s appointments, even when he felt everything was okay.

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