Falling Out Of Love
Though we seldom hear our buddies talk about how hard they have fallen in love this time, it does happen. Even when most guys restrain themselves from falling head-over-heels in love with some girl they met while rock-climbing or in line at the bank, falling in love for a man is as natural and valid as it is for heart-popping girls living in pink clouded Love World. Yet, all that pink and bubble hearted stuff women seem to exude when they find the alleged “man of their dreams” is something that can pretty soon be over. Be fooled not by the heart shaped look she once gave you when you first started dating; women too can fall out of love. Why do you want to know about this? Well, some day, you could be in a relationship you actually want to hold on to, so here’s the truth.
No matter how passionate a relationship once was, the honeymoon stage of every relationship is soon to end and give way to, you guessed it, reality. The feelings of being no longer in love with a partner could stem from a number of different reasons. Among them, women often talk about not thinking of their partner during the day nor looking forward to their time together, suddenly finding themselves with different goals and plans for the future, they are more annoyed by the small things you do and no longer think of how she can please you; and worse, she thinks of someone else. For women, the man they are in love with should take their minds and hearts over. Drifting away from this state is a loud, flashy warning sign.
Warning signs any man should pay attention to include communication issues, lack of sexual intimacy and withdrawal. More often than not, I have found myself listening to my brother or friends say what they feel and think, but fail to communicate this way with their actual girlfriends or wives. Women want to know about your feelings as much as they want to communicate theirs. Let her know how you feel, good or bad; they can take it. False expectations from a given relationship are often another detrimental part of the fall out process. Since women have always been the fixers of all relationship matters, seldom do men find the need to look for solutions and answers. That feeling of neglect can carve even deeper than infidelity or the like. Being less tangible and more difficult to pinpoint, women have a harder time being assertive about this issue.
Feeling less in love with a partner can be a difficult state to accept. Guilt and remorse often come hand in hand with a situation like this. Both men and women make the mistake of entering a relationship without being ready for it. Be it during rebound or even still inside a relationship, we enter a new one. Doing so seldom provides people the chance to come to terms with themselves, hurting unwillingly the new partner. Rebounds are hot and passionate, perfect for some generic Viagra action. But the fire is out as fast as it was lit. That sense of false love can soon turn into being out of love.
