Get Talkin’
If you are one of those driven and innovative men in bed, you sure have used or contemplated using a nice session of dirty talk to warm up, melt down and crazy up hot your woman. Believe it or not, when in the right mood, a well-played set of nasty phrases can turn an average Joe into Mr. Sexy Pants. Though not recommended for every single couple, dirty talk can add up to an already great sex life or pick up one that has fallen flat due to monotony. For those of you out there who have been toying with the idea or have unsuccessfully practiced it, here are a few pointers as how to go about dirty talk successfully!
Being capable of fluently talking dirty to a girl is something many men struggle with. Talking dirty is not much about skill but about timing. There is little change of sounding fluent and not awkward when talking dirty, but if in the right mood, you receptor can either take it as hot, start laughing uncontrollably or freak out and leave. We only want the first option to be your scenario. But how does a man achieve successful dirty talk?
As we said dirty talk is all about timing, and in two ways at least. Timing should be considered in terms of the relationship and in terms of how far into foreplay and warming up engines are you. Every relationship escalates as time goes by and you get to know each other. The more comfortable you are with each other (read the more comfortable she is with you), the more you will be venturing to try. Innovation can be the perfect ingredient in a relationship and dirty talk is certainly a naughty option you can use.
Then there’s warm up. As you probably already know, you girl takes some time to warm up. With dirty talk, things work pretty much the same way. So be careful when to introduce dirty talk and what level of filthy words are you preparing to use on your lady. Dirty talk can be used as a teaser. While eating at a café or at a bar – pretty much any public place that is not making you think sexy – you can drop a steamy dirty talk bomb to get things started. A little racy comment to your girl’s ear will make her start thinking of sex even before you get into bed. It’s like telling a kid she is going to Disneyland; they just can’t wait!
Another way of jumping in with the whole dirty talk, is testing the waters while in bed. Introducing dirty talk in the bedroom is trickier, since depending on your dirtiness level, you can prove to be too dirty for your partner. So test the waters first: you can either ask you partner about talking dirty or whether she likes it or done it before. If she is all around against it, then drop it. But, if she shows even the slightest sign of interest, take a hint and start slow. Just as if you were telling her something big, like “honey, I now have to take generic Viagra” or something. But happier.
Now take those golden oppportunities to turn dirty talk into hot steamy sex and practice, practice, practice. The best way to go about what to say and how to behave is start slow simply describing what you are doing or planning on doing. Later on you can try to incorporate certain words and profanities you feel won’t be insulting. After all, condoning dirty talk is like getting a Free Pass on swearing.
