It Takes Two To Tango

No, I’m not talking about dance lessons or Argentinian women dressed in tight dresses with frilly bottoms. The old saying it takes two to tango applies to an endless array of everyday situations. Yet it has never been so suitable to a situation than it is to what goes on in the bedroom and between a couple. Since men have been labeled as the sex machines of this equation, there are certain things you ought to be encouraging your lady about so things don’t get cold between the sheets.

When there is one part out of two that isn’t working, 50% just isn’t going to cut it. You can drag a relationship by yourself for sometime and do anything and everything to make it work. However, everyone has a breaking point and pushing things to that place can make your relationship end badly. Things will be said and dirty laundry will be out in the open; no chance to take anything back.

As with anything relationship-oriented, communication is key. Whenever there is something you don’t like about your partner, you have to find a way to deal with it that is effective and produce as little damage as possible. Especially when you two are getting to know each other, it is important that you are aware of the likes and dislikes each other has. Sounds easy, but each person has their own sensitive issues and therefore not all can be addressed the same.

Try talking to your partner in a positive way. Instead of telling her what you don’t like, go for a brighter approach by telling her the things you do enjoy with and from her. This way not only are you delivering your message and addressing the issue, but you are also throwing her a bone for her performance.

Think of it this way: if it were you who was having a problem, say with your soldier down there, and you had to start on a generic Viagra program tomorrow, wouldn’t you like to be addressed in a non invasive and aggressive way? That’s right; that whole don’t do unto others what you don’t want done on to you thing is starting to make sense now.

Many men complain about their female partners not taking the initiative when it comes to sex. The only true way to go about something like this is using your mouth. And no, I don’t mean it that way; I mean you are up for a nice little chat. Many a time, women carry a heavy load concerning social stereotypes and taboos that include given expected behavior about sex. Even when girls are not the clear representation of Miss Prude, a common social persona creeps in them  at one point or another.

Being able to relieve themselves of sexual taboos and repression about their sexuality, women are freed and able to better express themselves in bed. The key here is making her feel comfortable about being who she is without fear of being judged by you. On the contrary, you should be receptive and communicative about her following and acting on her own urges and needs. The more she comes out of the shell, the better a time you’ll have as a couple.

Go ahead then, free your mind and hers of centenial taboos and old concepts about sexuality. Do your best to enjoy each other and let your inner sex beast free to prawl.