Temptation For The Sexes

Turns out we are doing the wrong thing when it comes to temptation guys. Experts in the matter of how women and men react to temptation say ladies actually take on a relationship-oriented approach after meeting some hot and single dude. Simply said, women meet a potential mate while in a relationship, and their reaction is not towards the hot new guy, but their relationship and how to improve it. Men, on the other hand, do not.

Gender characteristics seem to stem apart when it comes to how men and women perceive temptation. Men, as studies state, look at their partners in a much more negative way after meeting an attractive and available woman. Men see nothing wrong with flirting in terms of the relationship they may be in, yet researchers say the male brain can be trained into relating flirting and relationship threat.

More of a socially imposed reality, women have long been instructed to beware of romantic advances from attractive men, as these represent a threat to their reputation and their relationships if they are in one. This may sound quite old-fashioned and backwards; however, age old social issues are deeply embedded in people’s minds – no matter how forward-minded we think we are.

Experts also believe men interpret interaction with the opposite gender differently rather than simply being unable to ward off scenarios of possible temptation. When asked to plan ahead a strategy to stay away from temptation, men participating in a study were more likely to stay away from women that represented temptation for them. Are experts really saying that if only we were to plan a “stay away from hot women” plan there would be less infidelity caused by male members of couples? I wouldn’t bet my generic Viagra on that.

Interaction seems to affect perception as well. After meeting available and attractive women, men were significantly more reluctant to forgive the same actions by their partners. This totally goes against how women react; experts say females are likelier to forgive a fault by their partners, after meeting a potential suitor.

I’m guessing the whole “men and women think differently” is very much a scientific fact. No matter how much training we get, there is always a great chance of us messing up by overreacting or girls overcompensating in the relationship out of guilt.

If you ask me, it really depends on someone’s personality, will power and true commitment to the person they are with, as to how they handle being “comfronted by temptation” or meeting someone new that tickles their fancy. Can we really be trained into monogamy? Do we all need to be trained? Who knows, but there will always be someone out there that can make our heads turn, no matter how much we love our honeys. I guess it’s up to us whether we turn our heads to see them go by or not. And, don’t women do the same with guys they find attractive? Oh right, men and women don’t think alike…