Performance Anxiety Cure

No matter how big a night is having sex with this chick, you should relax before going full throttle here. Nerves, stress and anxiety about your performance in bed can kill the mood even before the long-expected date. You know you have those Pitcher Friday Nights with the boys run you over and those love handles now look more like your identical twin is trying to scape your body through your hip than “just a little chunky here and there”. Now, looks is not all that worries you, size is a matter of importance too. Unit size, that is. With all the planning and scheduling you had been doing, you almost forgot about measuring up, if you know what I mean. What else do men worry about and how to get over them?

The average man has an erect penis at 6.5 inches, but falling below is nothing to stress about. Knowing your stuff and how to use it might be more important while performing than having a torpedo-sized monster down your pants. Since actual penetration will (supposedly) only come at  the very end to finish the whole thing off, there are other things you can do to turn your woman on and turn attention away from your penis. However, do not drift away if your lady attempts a little grab and stroke. If she is grabbing it is because she likes it, right?

Foreplay is key, and therefore tongue and hands (specially fingers) will do wonders to provide you with good references. Build her tension up addressing parts of her body that usually get neglected during sex. If anything, you should have learned so far that female orgasms are mostly due to clitoral stimulation. If your ego requires a little pumping, start there and then turn to vaginal penetration. Not only will your lady appreciate it, but the chances of her complaining afterwards about a supposedly small penis are scarce.

Take your mind off of what could go wrong. Most men stress so much over the chances of getting a softy or not being able to perform like porn stars that these things actually do happen. Specialists say that perhaps that is why generic Viagra has been so successful: it works as a backup for those who for some reason hesitate about their manly powers. Though the medicine does cause an effect, sometimes men would be better off taking it for the sake of confidence if not for anything else.

Last but not least, leave orgasms alone. We go back to taking your mind off of things. If your only purpose of having sex with this girl is making her orgasm, then you wont be enjoying the process or her. Again, you fall into your own trap. That kind of obsessive behavior will leave you nowhere, probably causing you frustration and her as well. Not all girls orgasm all the time; just do your best for her to enjoy herself and expect the same from her.